I tumbled across this amazing video yesterday and shared it on twitter and couldn’t stop thinking about it, so I decided to share it with all of you as well. Before you watch, I just want to share with you my thoughts on why I think this video is so superb.
First of all, we as women (all women of all races) need to stop looking at one another as though the other is not good enough or in pitty just because she doesn’t have a man…really!!! We honestly need to stop letting our “relationship” status define who we are in society. The older you get, the worse it is. It seems that if you are not married by a certain age something must be wrong with you.
Nuh-uh…NO, NO, NO, NO, NO [yes, i’m shaking my finger and twistin my neck]
You are NOT right! First of all, just because you have a man, doesn’t mean you HAVE a man. Look ladies, if you are getting the crooked eye from some other married woman because you are single then something might not be right in her relationship…yah know. Most happily married women I know don’t question or judge your “status” it’s the women who are walking a tight-rope on their not so steady relationship that have the most to say about you to make them feel better about themselves and what they do (or really don’t) appear to have.
People with real, true love understand how hard it is to find and know how lucky they are to have it and understand that it takes time…the others, well they just get married because they think it make them a better person in society…then they get divorced when the children go to college and call it “irreconcilable differences” LMAO.
How about this you might not have a man because you are not gonna take whatever is thrown your way just to say you “he put a ring on it” like Kim said “the ring don’t mean a thing” and honey-baby-chile I’d rather wait for that person to come who is going to be strong when I’m weak, shedding the light when I’m in the dark, thinking outside the box when I’m stuck inside….my best friend, my supporter and I want to be him all of thee above to him as well.
So, I don’t know about you but I’m not single because something’s wrong with me. I’m single cause I wanna be. And instead of crying over why I don’t have a man, Imma do me! Believe me, I have kissed enough toads and recently learned that I WILL NOT settle for less just to say I gotta man! So death to the Tragic, Scientifically Less Attractive, Unmarried Single Black Woman!!
And with that being said…. you may press play now