If this is your first day transitioning or if you have been transitioning a year, just know that I applaud you in your adventure. There are so many different phases that you go through during this period. From getting to know your hair type, the hair products, the hair regimens, the hair styles and the list can go on and on.
It gets difficult at times, but I have found that the ultimate key is to always rock it like you own it…because you do!
Your hair needs your patience and I believe this adventure creates in you a new person. A new being. Getting to know your locks is like getting to know yourself all over again. For some of us it may take two months and for others it may take two years. Once you are ready to let go…there is freedom on the other side. Don’t do it because your girl is doing it or because you feel like it is a fashion trend. Do it because you are ready to make that change. Do it because you are ready to be YOU! If you are doing this for some other reason other than to make yourself happy, you won’t be able to withstand some of the criticism that comes along with it. Some of the stares, some of the questions and some of the noses that turn up at the mere sight of your “nappy hair”.
As you transition you get to know that all hair is “good hair” your hair is fabulous just the way it is~let no one tell you different!
And if they do, they might just be jealous that they don’t have the guts to do the same. They may envy the versatility of your hair. But don’t you turn your nose up too because it may be that they are not educated and they just don’t understand what you have come to realize. That your hair is not nappy but it is healthy. It is strong. It is fragile. It is thick. It is b YOU t FULL!
Full of life
Full of strength
Full of courage
Full of health
Full of nourishment
And last but not least to you, the transitioner; when all else fails, don’t give up! I know that sometimes it gets to a point where you feel like you can’t stand the two textures in your hair or perhaps you are experiencing scabbing or breakage and you haven’t got to the point where you are ready to BC…take your time. Re-evaluate. Be patient. Breathe. Don’t succumb to the creamy crack or the flat-iron. Remember why you decided to take this adventure and keep going. If you haven’t already, start a journal (written or online) it helps to watch your progress. Don’t be pressured by others to take the plunge to BC if you are not ready. As a transitioner, you are in the middle and you hear from both sides “Chop it off” from the naturals and “girl, get a perm” from the straights.
This is where you take a moment, think about it and do what’s best for you! If you decide to to tuff it out and continue the transition, GREAT! If you decide to chop, FABULOUS! If you decide to get that creamy crack, DON’T WORRY YOU’LL BE BACK!
Sista to sista, it’s all good no matter what. Transistioning is a tough place to be and believe me the only way to survive is one day at a time!
This is a time to get to know yourself! Become your self! Then BE YOURSELF!