I can’t believe I made it 3 months! But of course I said that at my 1 month mark and 2 month mark as well! I know it has been a while, but I have had hella drama on this side of the tracks, but its all good now! However, it is amazing how when you get caught up in life you want to find a way to detangle yourself from whatever it is that has you locked up and for me, the best way to do that is by changing the one thing I can always have control over (for the most part)…MY HAIR OF COURSE!
Now, I think I will do the BC! I know I have been going back and forth on whether or not I should go ahead and let it all go, but I’m thinking that it wouldn’t be a bad idea…besides, what better time is it than now to see how fabulous I will look in a TWA!
I feel like there are reasons that I want to hold on to my hair for just a little bit longer and they are as follows:
- Afraid I won’t look right
- Not a lot of styling options
- It’s getting pretty cold outside (and it will be getting colder I’m in the mid-west)
- What will other people say (well that one isn’t such a big deal to me)
- I will miss having hair on my head
- What will happen as it starts to grow out
- I have scab hair, so it might look pretty bad when I cut it in the beginning
On the other hand:
- It’s time for a change
- I can always wear a cute scarf on my head
- Not too much maintainance in the beginning
- I’m running out of ways to style my hair
- The two textures are beginning to be a bit much to handle
- I think I will have fun with the “new me”
- I need to let go of some negativity in my life and I think it can begin by letting go of the bad ends! 🙂
Well, I have an appointment on Friday (which I almost cancelled, but it’s still on) and I will have pictures to post very soon too! I still don’t know what will happen when I go, so I won’t promise anything; however I do know that I’m leaning towards the BC 70% right about now!
Stay tuned because there’s more to see….
Book Review: Thank God I'm Natural
Reading will always get you through any adventure. I have been reading tons of your blog posts everyday and they are all encouraging! I love the stories, the advice, the realness!
I read a book a couple of weeks ago called Thank God I’m Natural by Chris-Tia E. Donaldson. This is a great, easy-to-read book for anyone trying to figure out what it truly means to be natural. There are so many stereotypes when it comes to women wanting to rock their natural tresses. She goes through and explains the process for every natural and transition hair styles from a simple twist-out to sister locks. I like this book especially because she tells her own story of becoming natural and the obstacles she would encounter and decisions she would have to make especially when it came time to rock her natural look in the corporate universe.
It’s complete with the natural hair dictionary and everything. Like I said, this book is a great beginners guide. It’s simple; no crazy jargon to get you confused. It’s straight to the point and it leaves you wanting to get to know your hair. Even if you have been natural for a while, it’s a good book to read.
Book Review: Curly Like Me
Next on the list is Curly Like Me: How to Grow Your Hair Healthy, Long and Strong by Teri LaFlesh
Check out her story here. Her hair type is not at all close to mine, I believe she is in the 3’s and I’m def. a 4b or c, but I think our goal remains the same no matter what and that is to grow and maintain naturally long, healthy tresses! I would love to for you to recommend any good books or blogs for me to check out!
I’m still in it for the long haul. Just incase any of you were wondering. I get so many complements on my hair styles, it is ridiculous! I didn’t really realize how many people love natural hair. It is so beautiful and unique. No two hair styles are alike and you stand out no matter what.
I made my hair appointment for October 22, 2010 that will mark the beginning of my 4th month of transitioning. I am still unsure of what will happen on that day. Originally I planned to transition a complete year before making the big chop, however now that I am starting to see and feel my curls, I can’t wait to see what it will look like. I’ve never had a TWA before and the only thing bad about getting one now would be the fact that it is getting cold outside.
My stylist is one that I trust completely (so that is awesome) and I know that she will advise me on the best option for my hair.
Here is what I am suggesting:
- Cut off the same amount of permed hair as the hair that has grown (new growth). In other words if I have 3 inches of new growth, I need to cut off 3 inches of permed hair.
- Only cut the dead ends (I don’t have any split ends surprisingly) and just let it all continue to grow unless I start to see major breakage-which I haven’t seen yet.
- Go ahead and do the BC!!
I know many of you might be shouting “BC! BC! BC!!!” I don’t know, we will see. I haven’t ruled any one thing out at this point and today I’m up for anything. Tomorrow might not be the same! I don’t want to have any regrets in this process. I want to go at my own pace, as all transitioners should. I’m having so much fun learning about my hair and testing new products and trying new things.
Well, anyways! I’m happy to have begun my third month of transitioning. I am not turning back! I am too happy to be nappturally njoyable! :O)
If this is your first day transitioning or if you have been transitioning a year, just know that I applaud you in your adventure. There are so many different phases that you go through during this period. From getting to know your hair type, the hair products, the hair regimens, the hair styles and the list can go on and on.
It gets difficult at times, but I have found that the ultimate key is to always rock it like you own it…because you do!
Your hair needs your patience and I believe this adventure creates in you a new person. A new being. Getting to know your locks is like getting to know yourself all over again. For some of us it may take two months and for others it may take two years. Once you are ready to let go…there is freedom on the other side. Don’t do it because your girl is doing it or because you feel like it is a fashion trend. Do it because you are ready to make that change. Do it because you are ready to be YOU! If you are doing this for some other reason other than to make yourself happy, you won’t be able to withstand some of the criticism that comes along with it. Some of the stares, some of the questions and some of the noses that turn up at the mere sight of your “nappy hair”.
As you transition you get to know that all hair is “good hair” your hair is fabulous just the way it is~let no one tell you different!
And if they do, they might just be jealous that they don’t have the guts to do the same. They may envy the versatility of your hair. But don’t you turn your nose up too because it may be that they are not educated and they just don’t understand what you have come to realize. That your hair is not nappy but it is healthy. It is strong. It is fragile. It is thick. It is b YOU t FULL!
Full of life
Full of strength
Full of courage
Full of health
Full of nourishment
And last but not least to you, the transitioner; when all else fails, don’t give up! I know that sometimes it gets to a point where you feel like you can’t stand the two textures in your hair or perhaps you are experiencing scabbing or breakage and you haven’t got to the point where you are ready to BC…take your time. Re-evaluate. Be patient. Breathe. Don’t succumb to the creamy crack or the flat-iron. Remember why you decided to take this adventure and keep going. If you haven’t already, start a journal (written or online) it helps to watch your progress. Don’t be pressured by others to take the plunge to BC if you are not ready. As a transitioner, you are in the middle and you hear from both sides “Chop it off” from the naturals and “girl, get a perm” from the straights.
This is where you take a moment, think about it and do what’s best for you! If you decide to to tuff it out and continue the transition, GREAT! If you decide to chop, FABULOUS! If you decide to get that creamy crack, DON’T WORRY YOU’LL BE BACK!
Sista to sista, it’s all good no matter what. Transistioning is a tough place to be and believe me the only way to survive is one day at a time!
This is a time to get to know yourself! Become your self! Then BE YOURSELF!
This month I have been using the following products to wash, condition and style my hair :
- Kinky Curly Curling Custard (fabulous for styling wet hair)
- ACV Rinse to wash my hair
- Avalon Organics Clarifying conditioner for no-poos
- IC hair polisher styling gel
- Doo Gro Mega Thick growth oil
- African Pride Olive and Rosemary Conditioner (for my leave-in)
- Shea Butter Mega Moisture Fine Mist (oil sheen)
- Ojon Hair (sealant) never did get any natural shea butter, but from what I can tell, this does a pretty good job as well. I think it smells wonderful you can get it from sephora.
That seems like a lot of product. It is. I believe before I would pretty much use shampoo, conditioner, a silicone product and a whole lot of heat. Anyway, all of it works for me, but this time I want to try a couple of new products in my hair and change up my routine just a little bit, not much.
On that list is the following:
- Castor oil
- Jojoba oil
- Mixed Chicks deep conditioner
- Hair Milk (Carol’s Daughter)
- Yes to Carrots and Cucumbers detanglers
- Deva Curl One condtioner
- Aloe vera
- Kinky Curly Knot Today
- pH strips
- Henna (in a year or so)
- Hand Dry hair gloves
- Denman Brush
- Huetiful Steamer
- Miss Jessie’s Curls
- Bentonite clay
I’m not tryng to be a PJ (product junky) it’s too expensive for me and there is so much out there that it is easy to get caught up in all of the hype. I just want to find the products that work best for me. Now, items 1,2, 6 and 7 are products that I want to mix in order to try a new leave-in conditioner. The Henna is something I want to do next year to color my hair and just to see if it changes the texture of my hair at all. The Denman brush seems like it is a really good detangler and the hand dry hair gloves is something I want to try in a couple of months when my hair gets so thick that it needs some help getting dry especially since I am doing my best not to sit under a hair dryer. the pH strips will be used to make sure that my products are a certain pH (between 4-5) this aids in hair growth. Yes to Carrots and Cucumbers, Hair Milk, Knot Today and Mixed Chicks are all products that I have read really good reviews about. I want to try them all, but I will pick one each time another runs out hopefully by next year find the one that works the best for me.
This week will mark month two! Yesterday I was at my friends baby shower and I had my hair in my protective signature two-braid style and a lady was there that asked me how long I had been going natural. I was so excited to talk to her about the entire process! I was even more excited that someone could tell that I was going natural! I’M OFFICIALLY IN THE CLUB…HEY!!!