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Naturally Nspiring

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101LadyT’s youtube channel is such a pleasure to watch for all of you natural curly girls out there.  She is just so genuine and her videos are so nicely put together.

I will be 18 months natural in July of this year and she is def. my nspiration 🙂

Check her out!


🙂 N.Joy

Funny Friday :D

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OH KAY confession! So, I get lost in the world of youtube.  I go just to look around and OMG 3 hours later and I’m still watching videos…umph umph umph!

Some people are just so funny. I just have to share my njoyment..after all the purpose of this blog is to have fun!!!

Hence the creation of “Funny Friday’s” cause by the end of the week we all could use a good laugh!

Today’s Funny Friday is brought to you by @Tracemae she makes my day every time I go to her channel!!

🙂 N.Joy

I Know I’ve Been Changed

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I love this spiritual.  Reminds me of being at my grandmother’s church.  Anyhow…thought I would share! Hope you all N.Joy 🙂

 

Venting

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I just want to take this opportunity to vent.  Hopefully if I get this off of my chest I will stop waking up upset about it.

So, I went to get my hair straightened and TRIMMED (please note TRIMMED is the key word here) and came out of the salon with a CUT!!

See picture of me smiling on the outside:

Before I went my hair looked like this:

This above picture was taken 2 days before I went to the salon. Now, I did ask for my hair to be trimmed if needed, but for some reason that sounded like cut to her! I am so upset. I have been going to the same person for almost 8 years and she knew that I was growing my hair out, but why would she cut it? I just don’t know. I am sooo upset soo upset.  About 2 inches is gone from the back.

On the bright side, it is in a cute little style, but 2 inches is almost 4 months of growth gone down the drain. The top part has about an inch that has been cut, so it’s not horrible.

I know this sounds vain, but to me this is what we call a SETBACK because curly girls we know that we work hard for our locks to retain length and the effort it takes to wash, co-wash, condition, detangle is all such a tedious that when something like this happens it hurts the heart because all our hard work is literally being thrown in the trash.

So, now I have a new growth challenge and that is have my hair (the front at least) back to the length it was pre-CUT by September at least and the rest back to normal length by November. I will admit, after she cut the ruff ends off my hair (which is what I was going to get done to begin with MAYBE  a half an inch) my curls fall so lightly and they are more defined.

I know that I will ONLY be letting her flat-iron my hair from now on and I am going to be searching all over youtube for instructions on how to cut my ends!!! I tell you, you only get one chance to mess up on my head!! ONE CHANCE!! But she has been good a long time, so I will go back–but no more scissors for her! 😦

Have you ever experienced a setback? How did you handle it?

Long Time!!

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The style I rocked today. So glad I can do more with my hair!

I don’t post very often…so I guess I’m not a “go-to” blogger! Mainly my blog is my own personal hair journal and a way for me to look back on the growth and the strengths and weaknesses of this process. I was so unsure about going natural in the beginning, but now I realize it was the best decision I have made regarding my hair and my lifestyle. It is so funny how my healthy hair challenge has become the roots of a tree that has spawned branches into other healthy life-style journeys including eating habits and excercise. I have never felt happier and more confident.

Honestly, in order to rock it, you must own it and in order to own it, you must rock it! I am rocking it and owning it and I have become bold and confident because of it. I have learned not to care what other people think of me and my choices. This is my life and I’m living it as best as I can according to the plan and the purpose I was destined to live. I have grown so much as an individual and I am so happy right now and in love with myself 🙂

Anyways…there is my spill! Now fun part! Here are my pictures of my 3 month afro!! I’m pretty darn proud of the growth! You can’t really tell until you do these kinds of comparisons…but I love it! It’s fun and I never have a bad hair day…not even in the rain. I don’t worry about messing up my hair anymore and it’s growing so thick and healthy. OK so here are the pics:

My 3 month 100% natural afro 🙂


The day of my big chop! Compare that to the pic above ❤


This is my hair from the side shortly after the BC


Here is my side shot now 4/22/11

For 6 wks I wore yarn braids. I did them myself! First time ever braiding my hair 🙂

My yarn braids again!

Hope you all njoy! Please let me know if you have any questions 😉
Thanks for stopping by…take care!

Book Review: Thank God I’m Natural

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Book Review: Thank God I'm Natural

Reading will always get you through any adventure. I have been reading tons of your blog posts everyday and they are all encouraging! I love the stories, the advice, the realness!

I read a book a couple of weeks ago called Thank God I’m Natural by Chris-Tia E. Donaldson. This is a great, easy-to-read book for anyone trying to figure out what it truly means to be natural.  There are so many stereotypes when it comes to women wanting to rock their natural tresses.  She goes through and explains the process for every natural and transition hair styles from a simple twist-out to sister locks. I like this book especially because she tells her own story of becoming natural and the obstacles she would encounter and decisions she would have to make especially when it came time to rock her natural look in the corporate universe.

It’s complete with the natural hair dictionary and everything.  Like I said, this book is a great beginners guide. It’s simple;  no crazy jargon to get you confused. It’s straight to the point and it leaves you wanting to get to know your hair.  Even if you have been natural for a while, it’s a good book to read.

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Book Review: Curly Like Me

Next on the list is Curly Like Me: How to Grow Your Hair Healthy, Long and Strong by Teri LaFlesh

Check out her story here.  Her hair type is not at all close to mine, I believe she is in the 3’s and I’m def. a 4b or c, but I think our goal remains the same no matter what and that is to grow and maintain naturally long, healthy tresses! I would love to for you to recommend any good books or blogs for me to check out!

I’m still truckin along…

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I’m still in it for the long haul. Just incase any of you were wondering. I get so many complements on my hair styles, it is ridiculous! I didn’t really realize how many people love natural hair. It is so beautiful and unique. No two hair styles are alike and you stand out no matter what.

I made my hair appointment for October 22, 2010 that will mark the beginning of my 4th month of transitioning. I am still unsure of what will happen on that day. Originally I planned to transition a complete year before making the big chop, however now that I am starting to see and feel my curls, I can’t wait to see what it will look like. I’ve never had a TWA before and the only thing bad about getting one now would be the fact that it is getting cold outside. 

My stylist is one that I trust completely (so that is awesome) and I know that she will advise me on the best option for my hair.

Here is what I am suggesting:

  1. Cut off the same amount of permed hair as the hair that has grown (new growth). In other words if I have 3 inches of new growth, I need to cut off 3 inches of permed hair.
  2. Only cut the dead ends (I don’t have any split ends surprisingly) and just let it all continue to grow unless I start to see major breakage-which I haven’t seen yet.
  3. Go ahead and do the BC!!

I know many of you might be shouting “BC! BC! BC!!!” I don’t know, we will see. I haven’t ruled any one thing out at this point and today I’m up for anything. Tomorrow might not be the same! I don’t want to have any regrets in this process. I want to go at my own pace, as all transitioners should. I’m having so much fun learning about my hair and testing new products and trying new things.

Well, anyways! I’m happy to have begun my third month of transitioning. I am not turning back! I am too happy to be nappturally njoyable! :O)

Dear Transitioner,

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If this is your first day transitioning or if you have been transitioning a year, just know that I applaud you in your adventure. There are so many different phases that you go through during this period. From getting to know your hair type, the hair products, the hair regimens, the hair styles and the list can go on and on.
It gets difficult at times, but I have found that the ultimate key is to always rock it like you own it…because you do!
Your hair needs your patience and I believe this adventure creates in you a new person. A new being. Getting to know your locks is like getting to know yourself all over again. For some of us it may take two months and for others it may take two years. Once you are ready to let go…there is freedom on the other side. Don’t do it because your girl is doing it or because you feel like it is a fashion trend. Do it because you are ready to make that change. Do it because you are ready to be YOU! If you are doing this for some other reason other than to make yourself happy, you won’t be able to withstand some of the criticism that comes along with it. Some of the stares, some of the questions and some of the noses that turn up at the mere sight of your “nappy hair”.
As you transition you get to know that all hair is “good hair” your hair is fabulous just the way it is~let no one tell you different!

And if they do, they might just be jealous that they don’t have the guts to do the same. They may envy the versatility of your hair. But don’t you turn your nose up too because it may be that they are not educated and they just don’t understand what you have come to realize. That your hair is not nappy but it is healthy. It is strong. It is fragile. It is thick. It is b YOU t FULL!

Full of life

Full of strength

Full of courage

Full of health

Full of nourishment

And last but not least to you, the transitioner; when all else fails, don’t give up! I know that sometimes it gets to a point where you feel like you can’t stand the two textures in your hair or perhaps you are experiencing scabbing or breakage and you haven’t got to the point where you are ready to BC…take your time. Re-evaluate.  Be patient. Breathe. Don’t succumb to the creamy crack or the flat-iron. Remember why you decided to  take this adventure and keep going. If you haven’t already, start a journal (written or online) it helps to watch your progress. Don’t be pressured by others to take the plunge to BC if you are not ready. As a transitioner, you are in the middle and you hear from both sides “Chop it off”  from the naturals and “girl, get a perm” from the straights.

This is where you take a moment, think about it and do what’s best for you! If you decide to to tuff it out and continue the transition, GREAT! If you decide to chop, FABULOUS! If you decide to get that creamy crack, DON’T WORRY YOU’LL BE BACK!

Sista to sista, it’s all good no matter what. Transistioning is a tough place to be and believe me the only way to survive is one day at a time!

This is a time to get to know yourself! Become your self! Then BE YOURSELF!

N.Joy 🙂

Still Going Strong! What I’ve Noticed thus far

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  1. Most importantly my hair is healthy! Not only have I noticed, but others have noticed as well
  2. No split ends! I have been transitioning for almost 3 months now, but the last time I got my hair trimmed was over 4 months ago and I usually get my ends trimmed whenever I would get my hair permed. You could tell I needed the trim because I had split ends everywhere.
  3. My hair isn’t falling out everywhere! Every time I would sweep my bathroom floor there would be hair all over the place. My hair would shed like a cat in the summertime. CRAZY! Aside from the hair that comes out while de-tangling, I have no other shedding going on.
  4. Which brings me to thicker hair! Boy my hair is thick! When I first started this process I called my mom and asked her if she remembers what my hair was like before I permed it and she replied “ooh girl you had some thick hair!” I’m finding that out!
  5. I don’t have that cute curly texture that I was hoping for (3a) but I’m learning that my hair doesn’t have to have all of the silky fine curls to be beautiful, it just has to be healthy!
  6. I have scab hair around the edges, but I’m working through it by adding more moisture in that area.
  7. Everyday is an ok hair day, as long as you work with your hair and not against it! Making your hair do what it doesn’t want to do is like rubbing a dogs hair forward when it is supposed to go backwards…a whole bunch of unruliness!
  8. The perm was the culprit!!! My hair had started to thin and fall out around the edges, I thought my hair was going bald in those areas! NO BUDDY! That creamy crack was taking my hair out because it is growing like a weed in those areas!
  9. My hair loves moisture!
  10. Gentleness is key! All of that brushing and combing and pulling and curling my hair was killing it softly! Treating my hair with care has proved to go a long way so far. It has grown 2 inches in 2 months…I think that says a lot alone!